Sunday, August 26, 2007

Hugs to my girlahs!!


So I spent Thursday and Friday evening with my GF Jenn. Just love her. Spent all Thurs. eve talking and not stamping (gasp-the horrors :) ) but really had a fabu time!! Fri. we got a little more stamping done and I made this baby card using the wiper technique. It's really cute (I think!) cuz when you open it the giraffe pops out! I love the colors which came from a card Jenn had made. I love stamping with her cuz we share ideas and come up with these awesome creations. I think lots of our cards are collaborations but they make me smile cuz of the time shared making them -ya know?? Which brings me to the conclusion that I really like my friends!!
My sister and I used to be BFF. We are very different and she is 5 years younger than I but somehow it always worked. Well a couple of years ago Kevin and I decided that we needed to pick new guardians for the kids as she only wanted the boys (they are biologically ours and the girls are not). We felt the right thing to do was to tell her the truth. She also doesn't go to church and wouldn't have kept them in private school. She told me herself. So my kids would lose both their parents, their sisters, their church and their school in one fell swoop. So we chose good friends of ours who would support our dying wishes. She has been mad at me ever since. And unless you have had my sister mad at you, you can't even imagine what it could be like. Well, now she is getting married. My mother had to tell me and we just came from a family get together where she showed everyone the pictures of her dress. Well, everyone but me until I asked point blank, and she isn't having me in her wedding party. I know it shouldn't matter but it does. She was my maid-of-honor and I know she's upset but we are sisters and I still love her -ya know? She is using the excuse that she can't count on me cuz I didn't come to her birthday party this past year. The history on that is that the past few years this has been an adult only dinner at a restaurant. This year she decided my boys were invited but not the girls. I couldn't take half my children to a party and leave the others at home wondering why their Aunt didn't invite them too. So we abstained. Now supposedly this means I can't be counted on. I know I have done the right thing for my family and don't' regret my decision, but it still hurts. I don't think her fiance likes me either. I have no issues with him. He's not an easy person to get to know but I try to talk to him. The only way to fix it would be to make her the boy's guardian and just not have both of us die. ;) But I just can't, this is all my kids futures we're talking about, and I am not sure it would change anything between us anyway. So tonight I am sad, but holding on tight to those who love me despite my flaws and my 6 kids and even when I make mistakes or do things to hurt them. Sleep well my dear girlahs! Hugs to you all!!

3 comments:

Helen F said...

I am SO sorry to hear you're sad Mellie. Remember what you told me earlier: "Say what you think and do what you feel because those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter".
I have some siblings who aren't speaking to me right now too, over silly things and I know how it hurts - but life is TOO short. Don't let it, ok? Your sister will come around - and if not, then she was not the right person to BE chosen - my 2 cents worth

Anonymous said...

Mellie - So sorry about the issues with your sister. But, I agree with you!!! I feel that you made the right decision for your kids. IF anything would happen to you and DH, the last thing the kids would need is to be seperated!!! Also, just because the girls are not biologically yours, doesn't make them any different from your boys. You love them all the same ragardless!!! Big Hugs to you!!! And I think you are amazing for taking on all the kids you did and treating them all equally!!! Just look at the kids faces when you feel sad about this and I'm sure this will help brighten you up!!! Your sister is the one losing out here,not you!!!

Oh yea, I love this card!!! As I said in the SCS gallery, this is definitely a case card for me!!!!

Anonymous said...

Oh Mellie, I am so sorry that you are dealing with this sad situation. I know how important family is and I will pray that you and your sister can get past this. As a parent you must do what is best for your children. I believe you are right in the decision you have made. I hope she will eventually come around.